Tyra And Chrissy Take Stand: Don’t Ask When I’ll Have Kids!
Women in long term relationships, you know the drill.
If you have been together for an extended period of time / are of a certain age / have a ring on your finger you are often subjected to the question, ‘When are you having children?’.
But Tyra Banks and Chrissy Teigen say NO MORE!
The two celebs emotionally opened up about their struggles with fertility and finding the right time in their lives to take that life step on their new show FabLife.
But the ongoing questioning from family, friends and even complete strangers has to stop – even if well intentioned.
And the women have a very valid point.
“One day you’re gonna ask that to the wrong girl who is really struggling and it’s gonna be hurtful to them. And I hate that. I hate it. Stop asking me!” Teigen exclaimed.
Nobody knows what couples go through behind closed doors and what conversations or steps they have made.
A couple with fertility issues should not be shamed in public for struggling to have children.
Alternatively if women don’t want children right now or at all, they should not be subject to the judgement that is often cast.
But the problem is also the self-inflicted judgement and criticism that is all too common in our society.
Banks broke down discussing her own issues on marriage and children, stating that it is more shocking to society that a woman hasn’t been married as opposed to someone who has been through multiple weddings and divorces.
“When I was 23 years old, I used to tell myself, ‘In three years I’m gonna have kids.’ Then I turned 24. ‘In three years I’m gonna have kids.’,” she said.
“And then just every single year I kept saying that. And then, after a while it’s like, OK, now I want to — and it’s not so easy.”
Banks admitted that she has undergone IVF in hopes of starting a family with long term partner Erik Asla.
“I've had some not happy moments with that, very traumatic moments. It's difficult as you get older," she added.
"It's not something that can just happen.
"I hope (for kids), I don't just want one child. I want a litter!
“And I want to be the kind of mum where my child can come to me for anything."
We applaud the women for their transparency on an issue that affects so many women and even men and often goes unspoken.