How Robin Took Her Bullies On With A Heartfelt Letter
10 YEARS IN 10 DAYS
In 2013 we came face to face with a problem that was indicative of the day and age we live in.
Our Facebook page was becoming the breeding ground for hurtful comments - often directed at Robin.
While the majority of people participated in our online community with the spirit intended, there were the loud few whose spite screamed at us from our computer screens.
As a team who took pride in our stance against bullying, it didn't sit well.
When we started planning what we would say for that year's Say No To Bullying day, we decided it was time to address the trolls hiding in the corner.
So Robin wrote a letter.
And it encouraged many others to do the same to their bullies, as we once again took a stance and said "no, that's not okay".
Three years later, we're pleased to report those trolls have gone quiet and Robin is greeted with the love and compassion that every human deserves.
Sadly this isn't the reality for everyone online.
In 2014, Charlotte Dawson took her own life after the online bullying became too much.
It's a story we hear again and again, and it needs to stop.
So once again we are sharing Robin's letter in the hopes that it will remind people that those are real people with real feelings you are talking to.
Be kind and show your compassion - it may just make the difference.
To whom it may concern,
I don’t know who you are and I am not even sure that the name you use on your profile is your actual name, but if you have ever written something nasty about me on our Facebook feed then this is for you.
It is hurtful, really hurtful when we post things on our Facebook page and you feel the need to comment personally about me.
Whatever opinion I offer is only an opinion and it is never an attack about you or your family, so why is it okay for you to get personal about me with your reply?
I have had people call me fat, stupid, abusive and a paedophile.
I have had women tell me I am a bad mother and a useless wife.
I even had one bloke say that if he had the chance he would kill me…
Why? Why is it ok to make threats about my life, my children or my family?
The thing that really upsets me is that I doubt any of you would ever say it to my face.
Social media allows you to hide behind a computer and say things that you would never dare say live, maybe because saying them out loud would make you own them.
Sadly, for all the fair and even handed comments there is always at least one that is nasty and that is the one I remember - because it cuts to the core.
It’s taken a long time and a thick skin but I am coming to realise that these comments say far more about you than they do me.
What is it in your life that makes you be so venomous? Why are you so unhappy that you feel the need to spread that unhappiness around?
I don’t need an apology for the nasty things said in the past but I would like a guarantee that next time you sit down to write something horrible about me, then imagine you are saying it to your mother or your daughter or your friend.
I am not just an anonymous voice that comes out of your speakers. I am all of those people to my family and don’t deserve to be treated with such contempt.
Clearly whoever said “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” didn’t understand the extent of social media…
Play nice people it will make you feel better in the end.
Stay tuned over the coming two weeks as we share more moments for Robin, Terry & Bob's 10 Years In 10 Days